As a mother, self-care is probably right down there at the very bottom of your to-do list. But as Mother’s Day approaches, there’s no better time to think of how we can celebrate mums every single day. A big part of that is learning how to prioritise self-love and self-care. This will set you on the path to becoming not only a happier, more relaxed human being, but also a more present and nurturing mum.
‘Love yourself’ is becoming such a cliché in an era obsessed with self-love. But what does it really mean? Self-love is not smothering yourself in creams and lotions or taking endless trips to day spas. It’s taking the time to tune in to what you really want and need and honouring that as best you can, whilst often simultaneously looking after everyone around you. Here are some suggestions to guide you along the way.
The time is now
Don’t wait for your family to splurge on that pamper session for Mother’s Day. How can you nourish and nurture yourself right now? Even if you have just a few minutes to yourself, how can you squeeze in a little self-love? Call up an old friend, enjoy a few deep belly breaths, nourish your body with a fresh juice or take a stroll around the block whilst listening to your favourite music or podcast. Use your kids’ schedule to manage your own self-care time. When baby goes down for a nap or after the school drop-off, instead of frantically tidying the house, take just five minutes for yourself before you dive in.
Fill your cup first
While this might not always be literally possible (especially when screaming kids are involved), you can certainly start to consider ways to fill your own metaphorical cup. When you become a mother you often don’t have the time for self-love and doing what lights you up. You might sometimes feel like you’re losing a part of your self. By taking the time to fill your own cup you will be more present and available to your children when you’re spending time with them. Often if you’re okay – your kids are okay. Remember what you love and who you are, and make it a priority – even if just for a short time.
Despite the name, Mother’s Day is not really a day for you (along with all the other days of the year). On this day and all others, as well as thinking of how you might nurture yourself, think of how you can nurture and nourish the whole family. What do you love to do that your kids also love? Instead of trying to always balance ‘time for them’ and ‘time for me’, dedicate most of your time to doing things that you all enjoy together.